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THE
PEAR MODEL OF SUBSTANCE ADDICTION RECOVERY
GARY STONE,
B.A., L.C.D.C.
Before anyone
can consider working a program of recovery, the person must first
have made a commitment to the recovery process. The effort placed
toward staying in recovery will soon become too great a burden unless
you have firmly decided that the old way of life simply will not
be acceptable any longer. The following is a brief questionnaire
that will help you determine if you have indeed made the necessary
preliminary decisions that are essential before you can succeed
in recovery:
1. Do you
have a genuine desire to improve your life?
2. Do you completely accept that you are an addict?
3. Are you willing to surrender to take whatever action is necessary?
4. Do you recognize that your program must be developed?
5. Do you accept that recovery will require an enormous investment
of time and energy?
6. Are you willing to do a complete written plan of recovery?
All six questions
require a Yes answer. If on any point you think differently, this
model of recovery will be ineffective. An addict who enters and
stays with recovery will soon learn that the necessary time and
effort are not a burden. Energy spent toward a new life style is
worth every ounce of effort and that the rewards are very real.
The
P.E.A.R. Model of Recovery
Think
about the pear fruit. I remember times as a child when our parents
would pick some pears and wrap them in newspaper and save them until
Christmas. Then you could eat the pears with a spoon. They were
so sweet and juicy. On the other hand, I also remember some pears
picked from the tree that were hard, bitter and very difficult to
eat.
Recovery is
very much that way. Some people seem to fall into recovery and for
others it seems as though no amount of effort gives good results.
It does take a lot of time and effort for recovery.
Some people
who enter treatment after treatment seem to have little or no recovery.
This model will help you to GET IN recovery and to STAY IN recovery.
A life of substance addiction recovery can indeed be sweet and easy
to swallow. This model of recovery will help you to look at some
areas that will assist you to have a sweet, successful recovery
life.
Overview
of the P.E.A.R. Recovery
P.E.A.R. is an acronym meaning Payoffs, Education,
Action and Realities. In Payoff we will examine the
need for specific rewards. Education will explore some time-tested
facts regarding recovery. Action will involve defining what is appropriate
and listing some specific criteria for something to be true action.
Realities details very real truths for every addict that chooses
against recovery.
Payoffs
Most
people generally like doing the things that make up their life.
However, at times it seems a drudgery to continue. It is during
those times that payoffs become important. For example, a person
may love their job, but sometimes the only reason they continue
is because of the paycheck. The ultimate reason you do things
is the personal payoff. Recovery is not different.
The person
who is actively drink-ing or drugging often would like to be in
recovery. They sometimes sit around and go through a wishful thinking
phase. They think that some day things will be better. We must
want something before getting it for keeps. This want is real
if backed by our knowing that rewards are forthcoming.
Sometimes
(more often than we like to think), staying in recovery is a real
job and we simply must understand that the payoffs are for real!
You realistically look for payoffs in many different areas of
your life. Example:
- FINANCIAL
- Better control of money.
- Remembering what happens to your money.
- Ability to save for the future.
- Pay off some debts.
- FAMILY
- Better relations overall.
- Able to mend some broken fences.
- Participation in family events.
- Reconciliation with spouse and children.
- JOB
- Able to keep a job.
- Security for the future.
- Good relationships at work.
- Feeling useful again.
- SPIRITUAL
- Better understanding of God.
- Reconciliation with Church.
- Understanding of a higher power.
- Peace with inner self.
- HEALTH
- Better overall health.
- Chronic problems get better.
- Personal health needs noticed.
- Feeling good again.
- LEGAL
- No more trips to jail!
- No more probation or parole.
- No jumping at sight of police.
- No panic when phone rings.
The above
serves as a small sample. The list could and should continue.
You should anticipate a payoff in every area of your life. These
payoffs should be anticipated with the zeal of a 10-year-old at
Christmas!
Simply yearning
for a better life will fall into daydreaming. To have payoffs,
you must convert your daydreaming into developing a specific program
tailor-made for you. When you create your own list, make it personal.
Education
Alcoholism
and drug addiction are complex problems that touch every aspect
of a persons life. The recovery process is one that requires
a period of education. This is actually often a period of unlearning
and re-learning. The recovering person must remove some old tapes
and replace them with recovery thinking.
The P.E.A.R.
concept is a broad-based approach that allows many different approaches
to work together. However, this model does rely on some concept
generally accepted as facts. You may be having trouble staying
in contented recovery. A review of the following 10 absolutes
may uncover a root cause of your trouble. These items are essential
facts and any denial of their truth results in problems.
- THE
ADDICT MUST HAVE A DESIRE TO IMPROVE.
The addict is entering a process of recovery that will not always
be easy. They must show a desire to change their lifestyle.
This change is often sweeping and deep into their life. The
addict can be directed into treatment in a number of ways, but
eventually the addict must really desire to change.
- THE
ADDICT MUST ACCEPT THEIR DIAGNOSIS.
The addict must agree that they have a real diagnosis of addiction.
This belief must come from deep within themselves.
- THE
ADDICT MUST SURRENDER TO THEIR DISEASE.
For the addict to experience recovery, surrender is an absolute.
The addict must come to the point of willing to do anything
in order to be receptive of the necessary changes in their life.
- THE
RECOVERING PERSON MUST HAVE A PROGRAM OF RECOVERY.
If you investigate any great event or project, you will discover
some specific plans. Most projects entered with poor planning
have poor results!
- RECOVERY
IS NOT AUTOMATIC.
One of the greatest mistakes is to consider a program a treatment.
The goal is to train a person to make real changes in their
life. The title training center is more appropriate.
Many patients enter treatment and expect to get something that
will fix them. This thinking is dangerous and, unfortunately,
very well masked. Recovery requires time and effort.
- THE
RECOVERY PLAN MUST BE WORKABLE, WRITTEN AND SPECIFIC.
Heres where most people fall through the cracks. Many
patients leave a program with a vague idea of recovery and what
they plan to do, but they do not have a written, specific plan.
Think of recovery as a tremendous project that requires a plan
that is written, workable with the resources available, and
specific-- specific items to deal with specific problems.
- RELAPSE
IS A PROCESS.
A person does not relapse in an instant. Relapse is a process
that can be observed, detected and halted before the person
loses their recovery. The process of relapse has its very own
symptoms. These symptoms must be studied, understood and processed
as they occur.
- RECOVERY
IS A PROCESS.
Just as relapse has specific symptoms, so does recovery. The
process (meaning it does not happen quickly) of recovery is
also one that can be observed, detected and improved upon. Some
people are expecting results too quickly. The process of recovery
takes genuine effort and a willingness to go the extra mile.
- RECOVERY
REQUIRES SPECIFIC TOOLS FOR THE JOB.
Just as you would not go to a dentist for a foot problem, recovery
from addiction must contain tools designed specifically to deal
with the varied problems of addiction and recovery. These tools
can be extremely different from one recovering person to the
next, but they must be specific tools that work.
- RECOVERY
REQUIRES TOTAL ABSTINENCE.
The word total means no use of mood-altering chemicals.
There is no documented long-term success program that does not
involve total abstinence.
The re-education
process may involve more than the 10 items above, but these items
are the backbone of understanding recovery. When a person tries
to enter recovery without the necessary knowledge of the disease,
they often relapse. A person interested in long-term recovery
has a thirst for recovery knowledge. They will continue to desire
more knowledge about themselves and what keeps them in good recovery.
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Affirmations
- I
have a desperate desire to improve. I realize this change
will involve all areas of my life.
-
I fully accept my diagnosis of addiction. This is an absolute
reality for me, and I recognize the implications of this
disease.
- I
do surrender to my disease. I understand this means doing
whatever is necessary to enter and stay in recovery.
- I
accept the fact that I must have a program of recovery.
I understand that without specific planning, I have no
chance for recovery.
- I
agree that my treatment program is really a training program.
I acknowledge the need to see myself as a student. I must
keep being trained for what is ahead.
- I
fully accept that my personal program must be written.
I accept this will require a specific and workable plan.
I will readily allow others to review my plan.
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I realize that relapse is a process. I know this means
that I must stay in tune with the symptoms of relapse.
I know this also requires action to deal with the symptoms.
- I
also realize that recovery is a process. I understand
this means that my recovery will not be an overnight event.
I know this will require time and effort.
- I
surrender to the fact that recovery requires total abstinence
from mood-altering chemicals. I commit to this fact.
The
above statements need to be read more than once. You must
replace the old tapes with new tapes, and this takes repetition.
Before you move on to the Action portion of P.E.A.R., re-study
the above affirmations.
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Action
A
person may desire recovery but the bottom line is that to achieve
it will require very specific action.
Some
general guidelines about an action plan:
- It must
be written. This will force a focus on specifics.
- It must
contain the what, how, when and where to qualify as action.
- It must
be realistic. Action steps that are not possible are useless.
- It must
be a support to the payoffs identified in the first element
of P.E.A.R.
- It must
not be so rigid that it has no provision for change nor so flexible
that it is constantly being changed.
You need to
develop a specific bag of tricks that will assist you in your
goal of total recovery. This portion of the P.E.A.R. recovery
must be specific. Recovering people relapse when their plan of
action becomes unstructured. These items of the plan must be used
on a regular basis, not just in time of crisis. Example: A person
says they will call their AA sponsor, IF THEY FEEL THE NEED TO
TALK TO SOMEONE. By the time they NEED to talk,they probably will
not unless they have made a point of talking to their sponsor
on a regular basis. These tools of recovery are not useful if
only used on a crisis basis. How would you like to have surgery
and the surgeon never used the instruments but felt he could if
necessary?
The goal is
simple: happy recovery. If the recovery process becomes anything
less, some changes must be made. Here are some examples of an
appropriate action plan:
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WHAT
HOW
WHEN
WHERE
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Better
family togetherness.
Family recreation (voted on by whole family).
Every Friday evening after dinner.
As per family vote. |
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WHAT
HOW
WHEN
WHERE
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Attendance
at AA meetings.
In my own car.
Tues, Thurs, Sat, 8 PM
308 Pecan St, Sobercity |
The
above action plan has details. See the errors in the following:
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WHAT
HOW
WHEN
WHERE
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Attendance
at AA meetings.
Catch a ride.
Three times per week.
Various places. |
The difference
in the two examples can mean the difference between recovery and
relapse. The latter lack enough specific commitment to make the
plan real. They allow for loop holes. Addicts and alcoholics will
often allow such loop holes to become steps to a relapse.
Realties
Someone
once said, Reality! What a concept! It seems that
reality often hits us in the face. This is especially true for
a person entering into and staying in recovery.
Addicts and
alcoholics will often continue to use KNOWING THE REALITY OF WHAT
IT IS DOING TO THEIR LIFE. That is very true. No single element
of recovery can stand a alone A reality check can become a healthy
part of a program of recovery. (If I drink or drug, I can
go to jail.) A healthy fear can create an aversion to the
way we had been living.
The person
entering recovery must accept some facts regarding their addiction.
This acceptance serves as one (of many) elements of the overall
program of recovery. If you are working a good program, the reality
of jail after drinking can be a part of your total package of
recovery. Remember, the P.E.A.R. recovery utilizes a broad network
of recovery tools and ideas.
It's a helpful
exercise to actually list these facts and look at them periodically.
These facts have to be accepted versus just admitted. In addition,
the realities need to be very specific for each person who enters
into recovery. What may be a reality and a fact for one person
may not be for the other. The following is a list of some general
realities:
- Addiction
is a fatal disease. The only positive outcome is active recovery.
- Addiction
is a progressive disease. This means it will get worse over
time.
- Returning
to controlled use is not possible.
- Family
systems do not function well in the users life.
- In over
50 percent of all accidental deaths, the person was using or
drinking.
The above
examples are real; however, they are no specific to the individual
recovering person. Most addicts and alcoholics would look at the
above list and say, Well, I suppose that stuff is true.
The Realities portion of P.E.A.R. require the realities to be
very specific to the individual person. For example:
- The last
time I drank alcohol, my liver went into failure and I almost
died.
- My last
relapse occurred after a period of two years in recovery and
the results were worse than ever before.
- Sarah and
the kids will not tolerate any more of my using.
- If I am
late to work, I will be fired.
- My drinking
history proves that I cannot ever control my drinking.
You can see
how the above examples are very specific. Be careful to list only
personally true realities. For most people, their list of realities
will be the opposite of their list of payoffs in the first portion
of the P.E.A.R. recovery.
P.E.A.R.
Working Together
Examine the
way the areas work together. A person first becomes interested in
recovery and begins to look forward to the rewards. This leads the
person to get some specific education regarding addiction and recovery.
Then a specific plan responds to the desire for specific payoffs.
This plan is based on the training received to deal with recovery.
Lastly, listed realities help the person continue to recognize the
seriousness of this disease.
If an area of
P.E.A.R. is neglected, problems will result. To illustrate this
fact, look at the results of a person attempting recovery lacking
one or more of the elements of P.E.A.R.:
- E.A.R.
This person does not have a grasp of the Payoffs from working
a long-term recovery plan. The results:
When the going gets rough, they relapse.
They have no staying power that comes
from looking forward to some rewards.
This person simply does not accept
that recovery is worth the effort.
- P.--A.R.
This person lacks adequate Education regarding addiction and recovery.
The results:** They want recovery, but do not know how to achieve
contented recovery.
The action taken is often inappropriate
and not effective.
They mistakenly believe that recovery
is mostly common sense.
- P.E.--
R.
This person has very little but frustration in trying to enter
and stay in recovery. They look forward to payoffs and they understand
that they can do it on their own. They recognize that specific
plans of action are good for those who need them. This person
needs to stop thinking and start doing. The results when Action
is lacking:
Frustration from entering one treatment center after another.
Waiting for the magic wand that will
fix them.
Rigid denial that they must make
some real changes in their total life.
- P.E.A.--
This person has lost sight of Realities brought about by their
substance abuse. The results:
Long periods of recovery, followed by relapse.
Slow degeneration of their program.
They soon forget how bad it really
was during the using days.
Some
Closing Thoughts
The P.E.A.R.
recovery will result in contented recovery. You must make a decision
about your life. If you are tired of the old way of life and are
willing to put forth some real time and effort, the rewards of recovery
await. This model is a system of putting recovery into a working
package. Recovery is never a work it and forget it affair.
In order for recovery to be continuous and joyful, a program must
be in place at all times.
©
Gary Stone, POB 305, Savoy, TX 75479
Points
to Remember:
- The addict
can be directed into treatment in a number of different ways,
but eventually the addict must really desire to change.
- The person
who is actively drinking or drugging often would like to be in
recovery. They sometimes sit around and go through a wishful thinking
phase. They think that some day things will be better. We must
want something before getting it for keeps.
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